Let’s not deny that online dating can be a bit of a minefield – you’re putting yourself out there so that anyone can contact you, and you’ll meet all kinds of people online! Logging on with the hope of finding love can become a chore if you’re not careful.
With online dating being a hot topic in the world right now, before you jump in head first, I’d like to give you a head’s up on some types of guys you’ll meet when you start online dating.
The profile-liar guy.
There is no point in lying on your profile about things that are obvious within five minutes of meeting you in person. This includes height (6 feet, 5’8″, same diff, right? No.), occupation (a paralegal is not a lawyer, and the guy who keeps the books for a sketchy bowling alley is not an accountant), and general appearance (we’re gonna know it if that photo was taken in 1996, gentlemen). And also, just don’t lie. It will make your first meet and greet that much more awkward.
The already taken guy.
He wants to know what else is out there, but won’t necessarily act on it. Or maybe he will. Either way, he is not planning to leave his current relationship, but feels like he is missing out on something. Or perhaps something pivotal is missing in his relationship, and he wants to be reminded or reassured there is life beyond his current confines. Regardless, this is not a category of men that can offer another woman a serious, consistent relationship. Internet dating is an outlet for him and he is not planning to leave his partner anytime soon, if ever.
The “P.S. I live in Colorado” guy.
Why contact me and bother discussing meeting up and dating if you live two thousand miles away? If you can’t meet him in person, don’t date him! Who knows what other women he’s pulling this off with too, or even if his picture is really him! Creeeepppy!! Some guys just like the idea of having online flings. For some reason, it excites them, so be sure you meet a guy before you commit to dating him. Next.
He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen. He’s just not ready to involve himself in real-time dating with people he may connect with online. There are a multitude of reasons why this happens, but at the core, he is not ready or able to embark in a substantive relationship, regardless of what his profile says. Rather, he moves from one online-created connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and barely if ever have to leave the house.
The fast mover.
His first message is probably littered with innuendos, winky faces – possibly even a suggestion of ‘Netflix and chill’ at his place. Anyone who wants to date you – whether that’s for a serious relationship or even casually – won’t expect you to come to their house on the first meeting. For one thing, you don’t know this person; they could be anybody and you should always make sure you meet men from dating sites somewhere public (and let a friend know when you get home safely). In short, the Fast Mover is to be avoided – what’s the rush, anyway?
The guy with his kids as his profile picture.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about the single dads, but you guys do realize that everyone can see those pictures, right? Just trying to help. Because I’m not sure you understand how the Internet works.
The guy who says nothing.
“hi” That’s all he has to say. No caps, no punctuation, maybe an emoticon if you’re lucky. He’s into you enough to spend less than two seconds composing a message. He’s into you enough to trick you into doing the heavy lifting. In other words, he’s not into you at all. Dudes of the world, you’re better off not messaging us at all if ‘hi’ is all you have to say.
The serial dater.
The Serial Dater clocks up a serious amount of time online and when you ask how many people they’ve dated off the site, their vague answer of, ‘I can’t remember,’ lets you know we’re talking triple figures here. This man is here for the dates – pure and simple. His aim is to meet as many women as possible and see where that takes him. There’s nothing wrong with going on a few dates, but this man takes it to a whole new level!
The pushover kind of guy is the one who thinks you’re committed and expects too much of you after one or two dates. Or, worse, he hasn’t even met you and expects you to be exclusive. He might send you flowers, texts non-stop, call you all the time etc. Or, your email inbox may be flooded, or worse, your social media profile covered in messages from someone that you only met once or twice online, or went on a date with once. Yikes! Never friend a guy on Facebook until you’re sure he’s safe to allow into your social media life.
The outdoorsy guy.
First of all, I would be swiping left in two seconds. This is the guy that loves everything to do with the outdoors. His hobbies include everything from fishing all the way to camping and he may even be into hunting. If you are an outdoorsy girls, this is your perfect match!
Finally, the normal guy.
Don’t lose hope after you’ve sifted through hundreds of messages and inappropriate (read, half-naked selfies). Normal guys *do* exist on dating websites, and sooner or later, you’re going to come across the person that’s right for you! Make sure you’re clear about what you want and you’ll be fine. He won’t lie to you, won’t make you doubt him, and most importantly, once you’re exclusive, he’ll take down his online dating profiles and cancel the services!
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